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Post by Barry B'stard on Dec 21, 2013 16:33:14 GMT
I have come over here from FACTS as they are getting too jolly.
I used to enjoy Christmas and New Year when I was younger. Between the ages of 15 and 25 it seemed like we had the time of our lives. I had shed loads of friends, all my family were still alive and got together and it was all about having fun, being nice to each other and generally getting off with as many people as possible.
Now. Every year I find it harder and harder to be jolly. Mrs D and I never see eye to eye about it and want different things. I seem to be nagged for weeks on end about one thing or another leading up to it then we feck off in the van for two weeks and sit in a field. No friends, no family and definately no copping off with strangers.
To me it just seems like its another year over and time to reflect on stuff. Some good, some not so good. Most of the family are dead or moved away, friends all gone in different directions or its impossible to organise stuff.
Then the bloody christmas music starts. Again. Is it just me again or are they all totally depressing? Mrs D listens to them none stop and there is often a tear in her eye. Why would you want to do that? I hate them!
Im in a bit of a dark hole tonight. Sorry.
So. Is it just me?
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Post by Miculo on Dec 21, 2013 17:40:54 GMT
Don't worry Barry. I can't stand it either.
Had to take three old women (my wire and two friends) christmas shopping yesterday. Spent hours sitting in a car park waiting for them. I had to drive because there is a small problem with the car at the minute, I can drive it fine but Mrs. Eb can't.
So after a couple of hours they arrive back, get into the car when one remembers that she for got to get mince pies. Off they go again, for another hour, seemingly, while standing in the two mile long queue to pay for six mince pies, they remembered another shop they had forgotten to go into. If I live to be a million years old I will never understand how anybody could possibly be arsed doing that for fucking mince pies or the like.
This afternoon it turned out that some friends had been invited for coffee and games. Yawn.
Don't worry about it. It will soon be over, Alan.
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Post by Barry B'stard on Dec 21, 2013 17:47:45 GMT
Cheers Alan
Your mince pies line has finally made me laugh! Not just me then.
Coffee and Games huh? Sounds great! I could of course be having another midlife Crisis (I thought I had already had that out the system a few years ago when I went through a sports car phase). People tell me to stop complaining and being a miserable git as there are others with real problems. Well thanks for that. now I can add guilt to feeling sorry for myself.
Sod it. Going to open the bar.
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Post by Miculo on Dec 21, 2013 18:37:20 GMT
I concluded a few years ago that I am entitled not to do things I don't like. I can decide for myself whether or not I will do something as long as my not doing it doesn't prevent others doing something they want to do. On those grounds I was obliged to go Christmas shopping.
I am not obliged to watch Christmas telly or do any of the other shite. I will endure Christmas dinner and appear willing to help, while wishing it was over, which fortunately it will soon be.
I will watch a good movie or two, probably on DVD because I know all the words of the three or four movies each tele channel will repeat over and over again during the next few days. I absolutely refuse to watch jolly seasonal tele. I have a good book.
Don't feel guilty because you don't enjoy it. It's not your fault the whole thing is a bag of shite.
As you know I don't normally swear in posts but I think it's justifiable when it comes to Crapmas.
Cheer up. Any pub anywhere will have at least a few other serious male drinkers who also hate it. I recommend the pub.
Come to think of it I recommend the pub regardless of the time of year.
Happy fucking Christmas.
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Post by 747 on Dec 21, 2013 18:38:02 GMT
I don't like Xmas at all but this year has been much better. Simply because all my time and effort has been taken over by the work on the house.
When I checked my emails last week, a Company had a good offer on Hunter Wellies so I checked the size with 'er indoors and ordered a pair for her. That has been the extent of my Xmas shopping.  I always scour the shops (last minute of course) and get a selection of various Liquers (spelling?, fancy chocolates, you know what I mean) anyway she has even bought them herself this year. That is because I have been putting in long shifts in the house.
I managed to get out with her and the dogs this morning and it was absolute bliss, despite iffy weather. If we can get away in the van for a few nights between Boxing Day and New Year I will be even happier.
Cheer up Barry, it is nearly over now. |
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Post by Miculo on Dec 21, 2013 18:55:33 GMT
Just thinking about the whole business I reckon there must be many more like us. The problem is that most are guilt tripped into joining in and pretending they like it. They feel they can't say they hate it because it would go down badly and upset others who do. I am happy for those who do like it, as long as they don't expect me to like it too, in the same way that I am happy for masochists to stings their dicks with nettles if they want to as long as they leave mine alone.
Maybe if more more of us were more honest and more willing to speak out we might find that there are more miserable gits around than we thought.
I may start an I Hate Crapmas campaign and see if I can attract followers!
Na, fuck it, I can't be arsed. I'll just have a few beers instead.
The swearing is the Celt in me showing through I think, Alan.
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Post by Miculo on Dec 21, 2013 19:03:14 GMT
I can understand that 747.
Best Christmas I can remember we had been building some experimental earth bunds for the MOD. I told them it would all collapse as soon as it got sodden. It did on Christmas eve and me and half a dozen staff spent the next few day staying in an hotel and tidying the job up. We were on day work overtime rates for men and machinery. Fabulous money, plenty of beer in the evenings and not a word about Christmas. Just another working week, brilliant, Alan.
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Post by Barry B'stard on Dec 21, 2013 20:03:52 GMT
I dont think it was helped by meeting up with one of my best mates by accident and hearing that they were all out tonight in the town we were all brought up in (Im miles away in the sticks now) and I wasnt invited. They gave up a while ago as Im never here. Then later a female friend from another life got in touch out of the blue and after chewing the fat I just felt I had pretty much thrown away all the people and things in life that were dear to me.
I agree about the pub Alan. I would have loved to have spent Christmas in the pub and socialising but its not on Mrs D's radar anymore. We used to be regulars. She hasnt been in for 8 years.
I wonder if your right though. I bet most people pretend to be having a great time when all they want is it to be over. I cant do forced or pretend fun.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2013 20:25:01 GMT
Haha, Barry, At last someone else is beginning to see the light and wake up and smell the coffee, if you'll excuse those pathetic metaphors. Unless one is a child, or given to childish things, or a devout Christian, the event which is celebrated as 'Christmas' is simply another diversion by those with a vested interest use to keep the hoi-polloi in line (what am I saying, that's what parents and the churches do too). It's all an illusion and none of it has any valid reality whatsoever, but one must develop the intellectual courage and personal integrity to see it for what it is and do one's own thing. But standing up and shouting 'Fire' when the place is burning down does not make one popular. So let them who want to make a fuss about it do so, and just quietly nod and smile quietly whilst downing a few Leffes. My wife and I stopped celebrating Christmas 40 years ago and we never give each other, or anyone else, presents at this time of year. Call us mean, humbugs, Scrooges, anything you like, but then we are noticeably free from all the angst which appears to bedevil so many others at this time of year, so we don't give a toss for anyone else's opinion of us. If you don't invest Christmas with any special meaning, it is just another day; enjoy that and every other day fully in and of itself because one day it will all end. I could wax all philosophical about it, and quote all sorts of learned stuff, but what's the point; if someone doesn't work it out for themselves then giving them the answer won't help them. In conclusion, here's raising a glass to you and all the other miserable gits here (not in celebration or Christmas, you understand, nor even wishing 747 a 'merry anything') but just as a friendly gesture (beats the usual two-fingered one you normally give me). Ah, feck it all!  |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2013 20:30:33 GMT
I bet most people pretend to be having a great time when all they want is it to be over. I cant do forced or pretend fun. Then if you feel that way, you must learn how to live a life which is authentic to you. |
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Post by Barry B'stard on Dec 21, 2013 21:03:01 GMT
Thanks for the thoughts SeanNaks and the considered response. I cant respond truthfully on a public forum. Its not just Christmas. It just brings it all to a whole if you like. Shit it!
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Post by tugboat on Dec 21, 2013 21:36:16 GMT
Barry, you sound very unhappy, dunno if that's genuine or whether you're bullshitting us, you certainly sound genuinely pissed off.
If there is this inequity in your household, i.e. Mrs D always gets her way, how come you don't do alternate Christmasses? One year her way, the next year yours?
I've left a couple of Mrs TBs in my wake, I've been on my own for 20 years now, do what I want when I want. If I want to get up in the middle of the night and eat a cold baked bean sandwich there's no one to criticise. I can fart to my heart's content. I don't have to get involved in the cafe culture and I don't get dragged round clothes shops. The price I pay for this contentment is that I have to do my own domestic chores (when I can be arsed) and I confess I miss being able to anchor in the lee of Bum Island on dark stormy nights. My gaff is not spick and span as a woman would have it, but hey it's lived in.
For some reason women seem to view with suspicion a man who is self sufficient and able to look after himself. I have managed to steer clear of their attentions by staying bald and chubby! Friends keep telling me I need a good woman. Yes I do, but only for the nights, I want the days to myself.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2013 22:05:51 GMT
Thanks for the thoughts SeanNaks and the considered response. I cant respond truthfully on a public forum. Its not just Christmas. It just brings it all to a whole if you like. Shit it! Barry, I've always had a soft spot for helping others - okay, I'm either a mug or a nosey bastard, take your pick - but if you need to speak to someone you can PM me. Please feel free to do so, and all confidences will be kept, I assure you (except that I refuse to become an accomplice to murder). Having said that, I don't know if you can PM people on this board, but you can use this email address if you like: seannachieATgmail.com - just change the 'AT' to that well-known squiggly little character. All the best, mate. Liam. EDIT: I'm now going offline for the night but I'll be back to answer you all tomorrow. |
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Post by Barry B'stard on Dec 22, 2013 0:46:41 GMT
Cheers for the replys! I might take you up on the offer Nackers but I might not. Im ok. Just get moody sometimes. Especially this time of year. Fine ADmin forum blokey I am! Im pissed so I am off to bed. Away tomorrow so thats that then! Good luck EDIT: Just read my post back. What a twat! |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2013 9:02:20 GMT
What a bunch of whingers, get a grip it's Crimble in a few days, just go with the flow, life could be much worse than it is, I too do not really care for Crimble, but it happens every year, you know like snow and bad weather, just get on with it, if you change your attitude you might actually enjoy yourselves.
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I always scour the shops (last minute of course) and get a selection of various Liquers (spelling?, fancy chocolates, you know what I mean) anyway she has even bought them herself this year. That is because I have been putting in long shifts in the house.
